I want to re-educate men about what it means to love a woman. Sadly, of course, I am not an expert on sex matters and this write-up is to inform, educate and, maybe, brighten up your day for what may follow tonight.
Make Love Not Sex: The first thing men need to know is that women prefer to call it “making love.”
Communication: Ensure that the woman of your dream knows that you care about her, and want her. This is important. However, talk is also cheap, unless followed by good intentions and action. Communication can also be subtle and non verbal. A lot of Nigerian men do not engage in making eye contact, holding hands, smiling, winking, stroking, cuddling, kissing, laughing, embracing, etc.
Intimacy: Never forget that making love is a whole body and mind experience. Cuddling, hugging and just being close together reassure women and promise safety. Women say that a good number of men are selfish partners who tend to initiate sex when it suits them and have little or no thought about their partners.
Focus, timing, location: Planning, timing, focus and the right location are important. A woman will more than likely agree to have you if privacy is assured. Choose the location carefully, communicate the idea early and allow her to simmer — just for you. For most women, sex is in the mind: A woman needs to make love to you in her mind first.
Use protection: This is important and goes without saying. An annoying trend noticed among Nigerian men is the fact that they won’t buy their own protection (condoms). Part of the protection also includes your personal hygiene. Hygiene is important to women. Hygiene includes a bath, clean noses, ears, trim nails and clean shave (including the armpits). Also, please wash your hands before touching a woman’s privates.
Pleasure and fun: Take your time and really enjoy every individual sensation. That is how women do it. You need to learn how to listen to a woman’s body. It will tell you what she wants, just like yours tells her.
Ensure mutual fun: The goal of sex is not just your orgasm but ecstasy for both partners. Love-making is not a movie set where everyone concentrates on his/her script.
While it is nice to occasionally focus on her exquisite spot, keep moving, doing things with your tongue and hands all over her. However, do not feel the need to work towards an orgasm, and do not lose your confidence if she doesn’t cum every time.
Post-intercourse: Some women like to talk after sex and some don’t, so follow her cues. Talk to your woman, express your pleasure, praise her prowess, subtly point out any shortcomings and teach what she may seem to lack — so that she keeps getting better for you.
This is also the best time for cuddling. Most men hate this part, but many women only have sex at all to get to this part.
Okay. That’s it! Ladies tell me - How good are Nigerian men in bed?
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