It seems that one of the biggest problems men face is knowing how to make love to a woman!
I want to re-educate men about what it means to love a
woman. Sadly, of course, I am not an expert on sex matters and this write-up is to inform, educate and, maybe, brighten up
your day for what may follow tonight.
Make Love Not Sex: The first thing men need to know is that women prefer to call it
that the woman of your dream knows that you care about her, and want
her. This is important. However, talk is also cheap, unless followed by good
intentions and action. Communication can also be subtle and non verbal. A lot of Nigerian men do not engage in making eye contact, holding
hands, smiling, winking, stroking, cuddling, kissing, laughing,
Intimacy: Never forget that making love is a whole body and mind experience.
Cuddling, hugging and just being close together reassure women and
promise safety. Women say that a good number of men are selfish partners
who tend to initiate sex when it suits them and have little or no
thought about their partners.
Focus, timing, location: Planning, timing, focus and the right location are important. A woman
will more than likely agree to have you if privacy is assured. Choose
the location carefully, communicate the idea early and allow her to
simmer — just for you. For most women, sex is in the mind: A woman needs
to make love to you in her mind first.
Use protection: This is important and goes without saying. An annoying trend noticed
among Nigerian men is the fact that they won’t buy their own protection
(condoms). Part of the protection
also includes your personal hygiene. Hygiene is important to women.
Hygiene includes a bath, clean noses, ears, trim nails and clean shave
(including the armpits). Also, please wash your hands before
touching a woman’s privates.
Pleasure and fun: Take your
time and really enjoy every individual sensation. That is how women do
it. You need to learn how to listen to a woman’s body. It will tell you
what she wants, just like yours tells her.
Ensure mutual fun: The goal of sex is not just your orgasm but ecstasy for both partners.
Love-making is not a movie set where everyone concentrates on his/her
While it is nice to occasionally focus on her exquisite
spot, keep moving, doing things with your tongue and hands all over her.
However, do not feel the need to work towards an orgasm, and do not
lose your confidence if she doesn’t cum every time.
Post-intercourse: Some women like to talk after sex and some don’t, so follow her cues.
Talk to your woman, express your pleasure, praise her prowess, subtly
point out any shortcomings and teach what she may seem to lack — so that
she keeps getting better for you.
This is also the best time for cuddling. Most men hate this part, but many women only have sex at all to get to this part.
Okay. That’s it! Ladies tell me - How good are Nigerian men in bed?